How To Approach A Girl You Don’t Know


A wonderful way to meet a girl is to have a friend introduce you. That breaks the ice and there already is a connection. However, in reality, most of the time when you see a girl you want to get to know better, you don’t know her at all. You might not even know her name. That is normal. It’s not easy but it can be done. In fact, it happens all the time.

How To Approach A Girl

Could You Approach This Girl?

The first thing you should do is take a minute to observe this woman.That might give you some indication of what she is like or what her interests are. Even knowing a tiny bit about a woman can help make the approach smoother.

For instance, if you see her in the bookstore and she is in the travel section, that tells you something about her and gives you a chance to say something she might find interesting, such as mentioning that you’ve always dreamed of going to Brazil or that you just got back from Ireland and could recommend a great place for her to visit there. So the first thing to do is to take a second to observe the woman.

The next thing that will make this easier is to be nonthreatening.

Approach her in a friendly, nonsexual manner. Don’t overwhelm her by telling her that she is amazingly beautiful and you must get to know her better. Instead, using something you noticed while observing her earlier, say something about who she is and not what she looks like. For instance, you could say something such as

“I wanted to come say hi.I noticed you across the room and thought you had a really great laugh. You seem to really know how to enjoy life.”

A simple, honest statement like that is more likely to get you into a conversation with a girl than just some generic compliment on her looks.

A third thing that can help is to ask a question that is proven to attract girls. Maybe you’re chilling at the bar with your friends and you guys are talking about what to get your friend’s sister for Christmas and can’t decide if she would want a gift certificate to the mall or a clothing item. Well, go approach that girl and tell her you and your friend can’t decide which would be better and that you wanted a female perspective on it. That is a great way to strike up a conversation. It is honest and flattering. You can use this technique with any subject under the sun.

You could even ask her what the best drink at that bar is. If she looks at you and say, “I don’t know.” Well, that isn’t the best start and maybe that indicates that she’s dull as a board, but if you want to continue then say, “Well, what are you drinking then?”

Any of these techniques can work if applied in a friendly, nonthreatening manner and hopefully before too long she’ll be a girl you do know.